- March 14, 2018
- Parents NoticeBoard
Physical or Psychological Punishments! Which one works?
Dr. Myles Munroe once retold a story that at the age of fourteen, a teacher named Mr. Robertson from the UK called him a ‘black monkey’ and continued to insult him by adding that he was ‘retarded’ and that black people cannot learn sophisticated things’.
Feeling humiliated, Munroe went home and told his mother what had happened. Immediately, she got a Bible and instructed him to Ephesians 3:20 which reads, “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us.” This new thinking changed Munroe’s life for the better and he educated himself and graduated top of his class thereafter.
There are two types of punishments: Physical and psychological punishments.
Physical punishments involve smacking, spanking, pinching, caning or excessive exercise. I remember in High School; the most dreaded punishment involved frog jumps on staircases.
Growing up, physical punishment was the go to method of disciplinary action. That’s why most of us would opt to bring up our kids in the same way because we turned out better.
However, research states that there is a correlation between spanking and physical abuse. The more a parents and teachers spank children, the more likely the child will abuse their own children in future. Think about it.
In Munroe’s story, Mr. Robertson showcased verbal abuse, ridicule, isolation and scaring which is a negative form of psychological punishment. Normally it seems harmless but in the end it exposes children to a vicious cycle of frustration, confusion, depression and at times suicidal tendencies. However way you look at it, it’s quite obvious that there is no difference between negative psychological punishments and bullying.
Dr. Munroe’s mother used positive discipline by choosing to connect with her child which is more effectual than punishments. Positive discipline focuses on coaching kids through problems and seeking solutions together. Whereas punishments invoke increased compliance; this does not always mean a child is learning to behave. Normally, the child is just learning to avoid punishments.
Positive discipline however, emphasizes on raising your child to always do whats right.
Authored By: S Jam
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